Doing Life….Together


My husband and I had the opportunity to go to a wedding this weekend of a cousin. It was a great time spent with family that you don’t always get to talk to. It was so much fun reconnecting with some of his cousins.

Lots of childhood stories were passed around the table at the reception. Stories of games played at family gatherings, tales of “remember when…….”, time spent comparing memories each cousin had of the same event in their past, and stories of uncles and aunts who pulled pranks on newlywed couples (also known as Shivareeing….and nope I am not sure how to spell that!).

The sense of family and being together was like a warm blanket wrapped around our hearts and souls. The feeling of belonging to something that was timeless brought a contentment that is hard to explain. As talk and laughter swirled around that church fellowship hall it was neat to just stop and look around to absorb the joy of relationships.

So many times in life, busyness gets in the way of relationships and so it is good to have an event that celebrates that very thing. It is good to be reminded that these cousins and siblings have been there your entire life and you can pick up the threads of your childhood anytime you get together.

There is something special about the bond of siblings and cousins. They know pretty much everything about you and still love you….they have to because they are family! They know your strengths and your weaknesses and if you have stayed in touch they will always have your back. It is indeed, a good thing when your family also becomes your friends.

Talking to a cousin or sibling will definitely keep you grounded as they never, ever forget all the brilliant (and stupid) things you did as a kid. They will not let you forget that you shot your brother in the back with a BB gun (this would be my brother in law). They will never let you forget that you put a shotgun shell through your mom’s living room ceiling (another brother-in law ….though my husband usually gets the blame for this one). The stories of roller skating in Grandma’s basement, playing in haymows and remembering certain favorite toys at uncle’s and aunt’s homes are such sweet memories.

I always have so much fun just listening to these stories of my husband’s life. We have been married almost 36 years but every time we get together with his family it seems I learn something new about his childhood.

Maybe that is part of the beauty of relationships…..there is always more to be learned about another person, another facet to their life. I have a feeling it may take way more than my lifetime to really know everything about this man God gave me.  I think that is a good thing.



A cousin is a little bit of childhood that can never be lost
Marion C. Garretty

20 thoughts on “Doing Life….Together

  1. thecobweboriumemporium says:

    What a beautiful post filled to over-flowing with love, kindness and gentleness shared between members of the family, and between you and your lovely husband.

    I SO enjoyed reading this as it took me back to younger years when my fathers side of the family used to have all sorts of get togethers for all sorts of reasons, but their Christmas and New Year parties were the best times of my young life. The room(s) were filled with love and laughter and something magical which I couldn’t ever put my fingers on, and still can’t now. There was just something that made those times truly amazing. So … I understand how you felt at this wedding.

    An incredible post. I loved every word. Thank you for sharing it with us all.
    Sending oodles of love ~ Cobs. x

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    • thechickengrandma says:

      You are right it is so hard to pin down exactly what it is that makes family and family gatherings so special. Siblings are amazing but cousins are the next best thing. Maybe it is just the overwhelming sense of belonging? …..and so much more.

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  2. leadership2mommyship says:

    What a wonderful blessing. You’re right, someone always has to bring up something from the past–mines not as crazy as your brother in laws though. But I might be know to dance around to Janet Jackson’s song Control. Yes my brother always likes to share that one. 😳

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  3. kindergartenknowledge says:

    “This man that God gave me”! I do very much believe that this is true…if a person allows God to be a part of everything. And the cousins…they are the best! You are right …they know everything and don’t hesitate to share stories! I love to be around Mike’s cousins! Such fun! Great post!!!!!!!

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  4. Deb says:

    My cousins are all spread out now but growing up we were all together in the same town. My mother’s family was large and family gatherings were the same and loud. We only get together on occasion due to the long distances between us, but you are right all the stories come out, it is so much fun to reminisce and everyone does remember it a little bit differently. I remember riding our bikes around in our cellar listening to The Monkees on our record player! Thanks for sharing another wonderful story and wishing your father-in-law good health soon!!

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  5. Christie says:

    You have a sweet and meaningful blog…Love that you shared such sweet memories…question is the photo taken at the Painted Canyon Overlook on I-94 at Theodore Roosevelt National Park? Most folks don’t know that North Dakota has an area of the Badlands as does South Dakota. Kindly, Christie (a fellow reader of DK’s Live and Learn)

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