Valentine’s Day


It has come to my attention that today is the 13th of February. For some reason Valentine’s Day is sneaking up on me this year. I have a feeling there are many reasons that this year, this holiday is kind of going to get lost in the shuffle.

Years ago, when my husband and I were dating (waaaay back) we used to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I am never sure if we celebrated it just because it was the thing to do? Perhaps we didn’t want to be left out?  (As I type those words, it brings to mind my folk’s age-old question, “If everyone else jumped off the cliff would you jump too?”)

If I think back; I don’t remember my husband, even when he was my boyfriend, ever purchasing cut flowers. His mind set was that purchasing “dead” flowers (his opinion of cut flowers)  made no sense….you only enjoyed them for a short time and then tossed them out. (Perhaps this is the farmer in him?  Things should be growing?)

Once we were married he began to purchase live plants and bushes that I could plant in my flower garden. He, rightly, assumed I would have a lot longer to enjoy his gift than I would have with “dead” flowers.  .

It used to bother me that I did not get the cards and flowers that other women received on this holiday. I used to joke that once we were married I thought perhaps all the card and flower shops had burned to the ground.  It took a long time for me to become aware that those cards and flowers were not really my husband’s particular love language.

In all seriousness, his love language is evident in what he does for me rather than what he purchases for me. The way he helps with my projects and encourages me speaks love to me way more than cut flowers ever would. The fact that he “gets” my sense of humor and can laugh with me is something I cherish.

I love it when he invites me to share in his world. Sometimes the invitation involves looking at IH tractors and sometimes it is enjoying a beautiful sunset with him. I am grateful beyond words that God placed this man in my life.

He (and I) are not perfect. There are times we look at each other and kind of wonder what we were thinking those many years ago when we said “I do”.  I suspect all married people wonder that occasionally… least if they are honest they would admit to that. Maybe, just maybe, that is what keeps a marriage interesting.  There is still that element of surprise.

I am not sure what we will do tomorrow, on Valentine’s Day. I think it won’t be too much different than what we do most days. I always wonder what others do to celebrate special days. I wonder if there are more people like us who choose to see the everyday as special because of who you spend it with.

May this Valentine’s Day find you sharing the day with someone you love and who loves you back. May you be blessed with the person and/or people that God has placed in your life. May every day be a special day.

Dear children,
let us not love with words or tongue
but with actions and in truth.
1 John 3:18


52 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day

  1. Ame says:

    we’re quite laid back with holidays. this year i had actually bought him some cards about a month ago when they first put valentine’s stuff in the stores. my girls and i were walking through the store, saw an end display of funny cards, and 3 of them were so perfect i had to buy them. i put them away and totally forgot i had them till one of my daughter’s reminded me 🙂 … so, this year my husband will get 3 cards 🙂

    he has a gift for picking out the perfect cards for people. it’s always fun to get cards from him b/c they’re so perfect! i was never a ‘card’ person, and it’s still the last thing i think about, if i even do, when getting a gift. but it’s the first thing my husband thinks about 🙂

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  2. susieshy45 says:

    I have never received flowers or gifts on Valentine’s Day as it is not a day we celebrate in our culture. People back home are shy to demonstrate their love to their loves in terms of flowers, or candy or a trip or a new car or whatever. But like you said it is the everyday things that show me how much my husband loves me.
    For example, he is in Singapore now and I am about 7 hours away by flight. He calls me at least 3 times a day. He worries about me driving here alone as he thinks I may get involved in an accident. He reminds me to lock the doors before I go to sleep – I am forgetful and can sleep with the doors unlocked. He is constantly watching over me and making sure others watch over me so that I have no problem while he is not there. Those are my gifts and they are gifts of caring, well beyond gifts bought with money or diamonds.
    I think your Valentine’s Day gift will be that your husband will be home with you on this day and eating the food you cooked and looking in on you, through the day.

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  3. peggyjoan42 says:

    Your words describe my husband and I – perfectly. No cards, no flowers. The flower and candy shops all went out of business years ago. Ha My husband has no time for nonsense – but I know he loves me and that is all that matters. I prefer a live plant over flowers. Very nice post Faye. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY

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  4. Anne Mehrling says:

    What a wonderful message of love! I agree with Lar about dead flowers. John knows I don’t care for cut flowers or commercial cards, so he bought me a plant and a helium balloon. We are retired and in the house together most of the time, usually in adjoining rooms on our computers. One of the things I appreciate the most is our spending time chatting during and after meals.

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  5. Kewrites says:

    Now this fits perfectly into a post I am working on about Valentine’s day! My husband and I are equally everyday people:-) As I write, he is watching his favorite football game and I am about my blog rounds. Today was another day in our lives, nothing special and we do not feel the need for anything out of the ordinary, is love not supposed to be daily? Thanks so much for yet another great post

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  6. MrsCraft says:

    What lovely sentiments. 😊 we don’t celebrate with extravagant gifts, but I try to make an extra nice meal and he buys me flowers (dead ones, but my track record with keeping plants alive isn’t great, despite having an allotment!) Hope you had a lovely day.

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  7. Keyna Tillman Hoyte says:

    I love this! My husband’s love language is action too. I would try to make him conform to the “everybody else” world, and he did for a awhile. I found over the years that I am missing out on his uniqueness that he brings to this marriage by making him do what I want. I’ve decided not to be so controlling (that is still so controlling – I’ve decided) and let him be and do what he wants to do on those special occasions. The world I have been missing! He is much more thoughtful than what I ask for…

    I’ve learned to let him be him and let me be me…that makes the best “we.” KTH

    What did y’all do for Vday? We exchanged cards and will celebrate this weekend.

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    • thechickengrandma says:

      We actually just had a regular day. I made a nice evening meal and then I had Bible Study with a group of ladies. We didn’t plan much anyway due to my husband having just had hip replacement surgery the week before. We have been spending lots of quality time together. :).
      Have a great time celebrating this weekend! And I am so glad you stopped by.


  8. Deb says:

    You hit the nail on the head Faye! You are so right, it’s not about the card and the dead flowers and all about the thoughtfulness. I love that he gives you live flowers and bushes and it is the farmer in him…it speaks him and that’s who you love!! All of the things you mentioned are what really matter and isn’t it wonderful that every day is a special day. Now I have one question…who was the original sayer of “If everyone else jumped off the cliff would you jump too?” as I think we’ve all heard that from our parents…ha! Happy February 15!! xo

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  9. covenantfarmblog says:

    Perfect. Understanding each other’s love languages has really blessed my husband and me. He has learned to speak my love language fluently and keep my love tank full. I do my best to do the same for him!

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  10. kindergartenknowledge says:

    At school, I would make the biggest deal ever about Valentine’s Day…because the children enjoyed it so much…plus, the cupcakes and cookies were so good and pretty and totally messy! At home, we just go about our regular activities. Mike (surprisingly) likes to buy cards. And…he always goes to the same Hallmark store down by the closest mall. He will read every single card and reads the cards carefully! This is most likely the only way that he differs from your husband!!!!! A few years ago…we were out shopping and we stopped at the same Hallmark shop that we still visit…to buy a birthday card for one of my nephews. It took 45 minutes for him to choose the right card! I finally had to leave and visit Bed, Bath & Beyond (a few stores down) for a while!! He had no idea that I was gone for 10 minutes!!!

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      • kindergartenknowledge says:

        When we have grandchildren, I will go totally crazy making cookies and cupcakes and who knows what else! Yes… I will be totally out of control and intend to be! And that is all there is to it. I like the funny cards too and so does Mike. He also likes the musical cards and listens to every one of them. Honestly…he is a disaster in a card shop! What can I say though…I am a disaster in a shoe store. I will try on everything!

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